FREE ESSAY ON I.Q. IMPORATANT THAN E.Q

I.Q. IMPORATANT THAN E.Q

INTRODUCTION
What is IQ ? What is EQ ?
For decades, a lot emphasis has been put on certain aspect of intelligence. This
intelligence is called IQ ( Intelligence Quotient ). IQ includes aspects of Mathematics,
spatial learning, Verbal, logical reasoning, and memory. This intelligence could predict
to a significant degree of performances and some degree of personal and professional
success. However, some people with fabulous IQ scores are doing poorly in their life.
They somehow are wasting their potential by thinking, behaving and communication in a way
that hinders their chances to succeed. There is something missing in the success
equation. The missing part in the success equation is EQ or EIQ ( Emotional Intelligence
Quotient ).
Aristotle, a Greek philosopher, had a recipe for handling relationship smoothly. He
said,
 You must be able to angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time,
for the right purpose and in the right way  - Aristotle, Greek philosopher -
While psychologist, Daniel Goleman, called such self-control as " Emotional Intelligence
". This concept was made popular by his groundbreaking book " Emotional Intelligence " in
199 . 
EQ refers to a combination of skills such as empathy, self-control, self-awareness,
sensitivity to feelings of others, persistence and self-motivation. People who excel in
their life tend to be emotionally intelligent.
IQ ( Intelligence Quotient ) EQ ( Emotional Intelligence )
? Mathematics? Spatial Learning? Verbal? Logical Reasoning? Memory ? Empathy?
Self-control? Self-awareness? Sensitivity to feelings of others? Persistence?
Self-Motivation
Aspects of IQ & EQ and Their Differences
WHY EQ IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN IQ ?
As all of us know, EQ is more important than IQ nowadays. A person with high EQ shows
signs of not afraid to express his feeling and express them with reason, logic and
reality, and not the slave to negative emotion such as fear, worry, guilt. We should be
brave and do things that we want to do. Besides, we should act out or do something to
desire and not of force or duty. We should always express our feelings clearly and
directly with three word sentence, so that we can let feelings guide us through life.
Independent, self-reliant and morally autonomous also shows one with high EQ. High EQ is
definitely not motivated by power, wealth, status, fame or approval but feelings,
comfortable talking about feelings, immobilized by fear or worry, and able to identify
multiple concurrent feelings. 
There are many evidences that show EQ is more important than IQ :
EQ proves that emotion influences a person's behavior though he is brilliant and high
IQ.
Two students show different feelings towards their results. Both the students get B-
grade in their exam. The optimistic students ( high EQ ) shows the satisfying feeling to
the result and accepts it with reasons while the other acts aggressively and is
unsatisfied with the result although he is brilliant and with high IQ. Undesirable action
may appear if the latter cannot control his emotion.
Another evidence that can been seen in our social life is optimistic person is always
welcomed by others and it shows that EQ helps us in our social life when we can
understand others feelings and act friendly and be more optimistic.
In addition, EQ also fulfills our own feelings needs if we know how to release negative
emotion that has tolerated for a long time. This will reduce our stress in life.
If we have high EQ, we know how to protect ourselves biologically. We will feel afraid
when a snake attacks us. Emotion will make us feel fear and react to the situation. We
will run away and will be more careful when we see a snake next time.
Besides, EQ also helps us to protect ourselves from dangerous. For example, anxiety
prevents us from repeating the same mistake, while angry defends ourselves from
repeatedly disturbance or being attacked by others.
On the whole, we know that EQ is important for us rather than having only IQ. So, we
should know how to apply EQ into our daily life.
? EQ influences a person's behavior though he is brilliant and high IQ.? EQ helps us in
our social life when we can understand others feelings and act friendly and be more
optimistic.? EQ fulfills our own feelings needs.? EQ protects us biologically.? EQ helps
us to protect ourselves from dangerous.
The Importance of EQ
LEARNING EQ
"Intelligence" is really a mixture of different kinds of cognition, "Emotional
Intelligence" is really a combination of patterns, behaviors and kinds of thoughts.
There is a model of how to learn EQ. It is made up of stages such as 'Know yourself',
'Choose yourself' and 'Give yourself'. This model is taken from Six Seconds' Web (
www.6seconds.org , 1998 ). 
Question Components
Stage 1Know Yourself ? What makes you think , act and feel the way you do?? What parts of
your reaction are habitual (done without conscious thought and which parts are
intentional?? What are you afraid of? u Self-awareness : the recognition of the causes
and effects of your own feelings and reaction.u Self-honesty : the acceptance of your own
qualities and faults, your own experiences and emotions and your own power.u Independence
: the recognition of your own rights and responsibilities as a free person.
Stage 2Choose Yourself ? How do you know what is right for you?? Can you increase your
awareness of your actions so that you see their effects?? If you were not afraid, what
would you do?? Can you live with doing less that what is right? u Delay gratification :
take "right" action even though there may not be immediate reward.u Prioritize : bring to
the forefront of your mind a "checklist" of what is most important so you can weigh
decisions and actions.u Manage feelings : use simple techniques, like a pause for
reflection, to act - not react.u Optimism : recognize that you have choice, that you can
make a difference, that you are an important part of a living whole.u Accountability :
hold yourself to high standards and do what is right … even when it seems hopeless
Stage 3 Give Yourself ? Am I leaving a legacy of good?? Am I healing or hurting?? Do I
live the golden rule?? Will I die knowing I lived well? u Interdependence : the
recognition of an individual's place in the larger community; awareness and decision
making that takes into account the short & long term consequences of our actions.u
Empathy : use your awareness to guide your choices.u Noble Goals : commit to action that
serves ideals & serves others, but does not hurt anyone and does not profit one over
another.
( Six Seconds' Web, www.6seconds.org , 1998 )
There are activities to build EQ and to take charge of how you think, feel and act. These
activities begin with knowing yourself. It's through self-index, reflecting on EQ and
naming feelings. The activities are taken out from the Six Seconds' Web (1998).
Topic Activities
Getting To Know Me 1. Self Index ? Make a list of your strengths and your
vulnerabilities.? Copy your list and give it to several people who know you well and ask
them mark the three strengths and the three vulnerabilities that best describe you.
Invite them to add others to the list.? After one week or two, revisit your list and
revise it. Choose one strength you will focus on building. Make a list of ways you
prevent yourself from fully utilizing that strength.
2. Reflecting on EQ ? Take the emotional intelligence test from books or from websites.?
Check the answer. Do you agree with your results?
3. Naming Feelings ? Clip out 6 cartoons or comics from a paper or magazine. On a
separate sheet label each with an emotional concept or a feeling.? Examples of Concepts :
esteem, integrity, hope, community, values, perseverance, gratitude, grace.? Examples of
Feelings : fear, love, anger, pessimism, adoration, despair, anguish, confusion,
frustration, anxiety, disgust, terror, ecstasy.
( Six Seconds' Web, www.6seconds.org , 1998 )
There are 10 habits of high EQ people. ( EQ Institute, www.eqi.org ,1999 )
1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.2. Distinguish between
thoughts and feelings.3. Take responsibility for their feelings.4. Use their feelings to
help them make decisions.5. Show respect for other people's feelings.6. Feel energized,
not angry.7. Validate other people's feelings.8. Practice getting a positive value from
their negative emotions.9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to
others.10. Avoid people who invalidate them, or don't respect their feelings.
Learning EQ is not a difficult task. So, try to control your emotions and behave
properly. With the list of habits of high EQ people above, we can determine ourselves
whether we are high EQ person or not.
Bibliography
? Know, Choose, Give : Six Seconds Model of Applied Emotional Intelligence. Six Seconds'
Web [Online]. Available : http://www.6seconds.org/ [1998, December 10]
? Review of the book of Daniel Goleman : Emotional Intelligence. EQ Institute [Online]
Available : http://www.eqi.org (1999)